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NAKARIBISHA MAWAZO YENU WADAU WA TWENDE HARUSINI ............
The "help me until I'm ready" guy. The "need help" type is totally entrenched in his own insecurities. He only talks about his own problems -- never yours -- but he wants a lady by his side because it makes him feel worthy. So, he keeps her there by asking her to help him "until he's ready." But, guess what: He'll never be ready, and so, he is not husband material.
The "dare to discuss marriage" guy.
Since he knows women believe in words not actions, he dares talk about marriage and future plans with you, knowing it's what you want to hear. But that's all he'll do; no further action is ever taken. There is never a timeframe for actions; actions are even never discussed, and if they come up, the conversation suddenly goes in different directions.
The "be my guest and discuss marriage" guy. This guy lets you do all the talking about marriage you like. He knows you dream about it; he listens to you discuss it in great detail -- where your home will be, what kind of furniture you'll buy, what kind of wedding you want. And when you ask him about dreams, he says, "Whatever you want, honey." Always look at his actions. If there aren't any, if he's all talk, he's not husband material.
The "bear with me" guy. He finds nice, logical excuses that seem acceptable. You know, he can't take action now because he's busy with his career, or his weight loss, or his parents' needs. You name it, and the statement is "Bear with me."
1. The first and probably most common type of woman you should never marry is the ever popular
“Gold Digger.” You can spot this money grubber a mile away, but in case you have been fooled before, here are a few tips to know If she’s digging for gold.
• Does she seem to make everything about money?
• Does she always seem to light up when something expensive is in front of her?
• Does she ask a lot about how much money you make?
• Does she find herself worth in the most expensive shoes, clothes, food etc?
If any of those were answered yes, then you’ve got a gold digger on your hands and you should put your wallet away before she scans your credit cards.
The second well known type of woman you should never marry would be the “Overly Feminine Feminist.” These are the woman power men hating non-shaving ladies you’ve probably seen protesting women’s rights all around the country.
Now before a million women get all up in arms and decide to make a men hating rally about this, you should know that feminism is NOT bad, but it does have its limits.
If a woman gets mad because you open a door for her or pull out a chair at a nice restaurant because “she can do it herself” then, well, let that door smack her in the face a couple times while you’re NOT holding it open for her and see how she feels about that.
If you were to marry a woman like this your life would end up a living hell. Everything you did would be criticized and somehow related to oppressing women. You will be simply miserable, so if you find a feminist that’s just TOO into the woman’s movement, just walk away my friend. Just walk away.
The third type of woman you should definitely never marry is the “Overly Sensitive.” We all know women are more sensitive than men and for the most part we enjoy that, but if every little thing becomes some kind of fight because you hurt her feelings, then you’re going to have to walk on egg shells forever.
We enjoy comforting women when they ACTUALLY need it, however if every single time you “seem to have a tone in your voice” she bursts into tears and runs into the bedroom a mess, we honestly don’t care anymore.
This type of woman will seem great at first because she will need you and want you around a lot and really be into you. That’s all fine and dandy until she’s cries more than a 40 year old redneck on his second case of beer.
There are good women out there so keep your eyes open, but stay weary.
1. Find and Book a Venue
This is very important to this step first because a lot of the good wedding venues are booked out years in advance. If you find somewhere that you both love then go ahead and book it. You may have to pay a small deposit, but it is a lot of peace of mind when you have a venue booked. This also goes for where the wedding ceremony is going to be held. If its in a church then you will have to meet with the church. If it is at the reception then you will have to organize a celebrant to legally marry you
2. The Guest List
This is another good one to get done early in the piece. It should not be final and you can always tweak it before you send invitations out. My advice is to have an A list and a B list. If people cant make it from the A list then you can promote people from the B list. Just because you were invited to a wedding it does not have to be reciprocal if you have not seen them for a few years.
3. The Wedding Party
Choose the wedding party early so the people involved can make plans to give you the full commitment to your wedding. Its no good find out one of your bridesmaids is going to Bali during the time of your wedding.
4. Photographer
Shop around and get quotes for different packages that suit you and your partners needs. Photographers can be very expensive so you can explore other options like just getting a professional for the official snaps then leaving a bunch of disposable cameras around for the reception. I have been to weddings where this have been a very cost effective way a preserving the special day.
5. Flowers
When choosing flowers for your wedding you have to keep in mind that flowers are not in seasons all of the time. So to make them not such an expense make sure you choose flowers that are in seasons. They will also last longer and look more vibrant on your special day.
6. The Dress
When i say the dress i am also referring to all the clothes of the wedding. Allow yourself lots of time to find the right dress and time for it to be adjusted. Remember if all goes well you will only get married once in your life and you want to have that special dress that you will always remember. Allow for weight gain/loss just before the wedding. You should have your last fitting about two weeks before your wedding.
7. The Music
This is one thing that can make or break a good wedding reception. A live band is good, but not everyone will like that kind of music. The safest bet is to go with a DJ. The have a massive selection of music for all ages and they can also act as an MC if you need one. A budget option is to go for a jukebox.
8. The Speeches
One way to really bore your wedding party is to bog it down with hours of speeches. Have a few short sharps speeches about one hour into the night. Do them early so not everyone is blind drunk.
9. The Exit
Be sure to have organised for someone or something to take you away on your wedding night for your first night as a married couple. You dont want to be waiting for a taxi to take you away.
10. The Honeymoon
if you have got any money left then book the best honeymoon you can and this will really top of your wedding experience.
1. Men would rather feel unloved than inadequate and disrespected.
Husbands need to know that their wives respect them both privately and publicly. Men thrive when they know that their wives trust them, admire them and believe in them. Shaunti Feldhahn's research indicated that men would rather sense the loss of loving feelings from their wives than to be disrespected by them.
2. A man's anger is often a response to feeling disrespected by his wife.
When a husband becomes angry with his wife, he may not come out and say, "You're disrespecting me!" But, there is a good likelihood that he is feeling stung by something his wife has done which he considers disrespectful and humiliating.
3. Men are insecure.
Men are afraid that they aren't cutting it in life -- not just at work, but at home, in their role as a husband. They may never vocalize this, but inwardly, they are secretly vulnerable. The antidote? Affirmation. To men, affirmation from their wives is everything! If they don't receive this affirmation from their wives, they'll seek it elsewhere. When they receive regular and genuine affirmation from their wives (not flattery, by the way), they become much more secure and confident in all areas of their lives.
4. Men feel the burden of being the provider for their family.
Intellectually, it doesn't matter how much or little a man makes, or whether or not his wife makes more or less money in her career. Men simply bear the emotional burden of providing for their family. It's not a burden they've chosen to bear. Men are simply wired with this burden. As such, it is never far from their minds and can result in the feeling of being trapped. While wives cannot release their husbands from this burden, they can relieve it through a healthy dose of appreciation, encouragement and support.
5. Men want more sex.
Everyone's natural response to this is probably, "Duh!" But, that response is probably for the wrong reason. We primarily assume that men want more sex with their wives due to their physical wiring (their "needs"). But, surprisingly, Shaunti Feldhahn's research showed that the reason men want more sex is because of their strong need to be desired by their wives. Men simply need to be wanted. Regular, fulfilling sex is critical to a man's sense of feeling loved and desired.
6. Sex means more than sex.
When men feel their wives desire them sexually, it has a profound effect on the rest of their lives. It gives them an increasing sense of confidence and well-being that carries over into every other area of his life. The flipside of this coin also carries a profoundly negative affect. When a husband feels rejected sexually, he not only feels his wife is rejecting him physically, but that she is somehow rejecting his life as a husband, provider and man. This is why making sex a priority in marriage is so incredibly important!
7. Men struggle with visual temptation.
This means the vast majority of men respond to visual images when it comes to women. And, this doesn't just mean the guys with wandering eyes. Even the most godly husband cannot avoid noticing a woman who dresses in a way that draws attention to her body. Even if it is just a glance, these visual images are stored away in the male brain as a sort of "visual rolodex"; that will reappear without any warning. Men can choose whether to dwell on these images and memories or dismiss them, but they can't control when these images appear.
8. Men enjoy romance, but doubt their skills to be romantic.
True, many men appear to be unromantic clods, but it doesn't mean that they want to be that way! Men want to be romantic, but they just doubt their ability to pull it off. They are plagued by internal hesitations, perceiving the risk of humiliation and failure as too high. Wives can do a great deal to increase their husbands' confidence in their romantic skills through encouragement and redefining what romance looks like. For example, a wife may balk when her husband asks her to go along to the hardware store, but it's likely that he's asking because he sees it as a time they can get away as a couple and hang out together. What's not romantic about that?
9. Men care about their wife's appearance.
This isn't saying that all men want their wives to look like the latest supermodel. What men really want is to know that their wives are making an effort to take care of themselves (and not letting themselves go) because it matters to them (the husbands!). Husbands appreciate the efforts their wives make to maintain their attractiveness.
10. Men want their wives to know how much they love them.
This was the number one response of men. Men aren't confident in their ability to express this, but they love their wives dearly. Men want to show how much they love their wives and long for them to understand this fact.
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