What to Consider When Choosing Your Centerpiece






 There are a number of things couples need to consider when choosing their table centerpieces. First, and foremost, is budget. Using your guest list, decide how many tables will be needed for your reception, and how much money you can allow for each centerpiece. It is also important to consider how many guests will be seated at each table, and how much table space can be given over to the centerpiece. Keeping the comfort of your guests in mind, avoid centerpieces that take up too much space, and steer clear of designs that may obstruct your guest’s view of the dance floor or force them to crane their necks to hold conversations across the table. If you are holding your reception in a dimly lit environment, you may want to include candles or tea lights in your centerpieces to create accent lighting at your guest’s tables. For receptions that are being held out of doors, keep in mind that some centerpieces may be subject to the elements. For example, if you are planning a summer wedding, edible arrangements of fruits and chocolates will suffer in the heat.
      








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WHAT MEN CAN DO TO END VIOLENCE AGAINST WOMEN
Be aware.
  • Words are very powerful, especially when spoken by people with power over others. We live in a society in which words are often used to put women down, where calling a girl or woman a “bitch,” “freak,” “whore,” “baby,” or “dog” is common. Such language sends a message that females are less than fully human. When we see women as inferior, it becomes easier to treat them with less respect, disregard their rights, and ignore their well-being.
  • Don’t fund sexism. Refuse to purchase any magazine, rent any video, subscribe to any Web site, or buy any music that portrays girls or women in a sexually degrading or abusive manner. Protest sexism in the media.
  • Rape and relationship abuse won’t be taken seriously until everyone knows how common it is. In the U.S. alone, more than one million women and girls are raped each year (Rape in America, 1992).  Approximately one in three women will be in an abusive relationship in their lifetime (Report on the American Psychological Association Presidential Task Force on Violence and the Family, 1996).
  • Understand the arguments against pornography depicting adult women. Realize that the sex trade in this country is worth billions of dollars. Examine your thoughts about the existence of strip clubs, prostitution and related sex trade businesses. Question the purpose behind the proliferation of explicit and graphic sex sites on the Internet. Think about how eroticizing violent sex contributes to violence against women.
Speak up.
  • You may never see a man abusing his partner or witness a rape, but you will see and hear attitudes and behaviors that degrade women and promote rape and abuse. When your best friend tells a joke about abusing women in some way, say you don’t find it funny. When you read an article that blames an abusive relationship survivor for being abused, write a letter to the editor. When laws are proposed that limit women’s rights, let politicians know that you won’t support them. Do anything but remain silent.
  • Don’t engage in any forms of sexual harassment, such as wolf-whistling, cat-calling, unwanted touching, outrageous or inappropriate behavior. Women are not public property, available for our intrusions. Neither are men.
  • Develop an awareness of the cultural supports for violence against women. Develop the ability to recognize myths which support violence against women.
  • If a brother, friend, classmate, or teammate is abusing his female partner—or is disrespectful or abusive to girls and women in general—don’t look the other way. If you fell comfortable doing so, try to talk to him about it. Urge him to seek help. Or if you don’t know what to do, consult a friend, a parent, a professor, or a counselor. DON”T REMAIN SILENT.
Talk with women…
  • About how violence against women and fear of violence against women affects their daily lives; about how they want to be supported if it has happened to them; about what they think men can do to prevent sexual violence.  If you’re willing to listen, you can learn a lot from women about the impact of relationship abuse and how to stop it.
  • Become an ally to the women in your life – do not participate in sexist behavior by objectifying or stereotyping women.
  • Believe people when they tell you they’ve been raped or abused. Support what they say about it. Don’t ask about their behavior, what they were wearing, etc. Listen to them.
  • Recognize that women neither ask for nor deserve to be raped or abused ever.
Talk with men…
  • About how it feels to be seen as a potential abuser; about whether they know someone who’s been abused. Learn about how relationship abuse touches the lives of men and what we can do to stop it.
  • Mentor and teach young boys about how to be men in ways that don’t involve degrading or abusing girls and women. Volunteer to work with gender violence prevention programs, including anti-sexist men’s programs. Lead by example.
  • Approach gender violence as a MEN’s issue involving men of all ages and socioeconomic, racial and ethnic backgrounds. View men not only as perpetrators or possible offenders, but as empowered bystanders who can confront abusive peers.
Confront Yourself

  • Have the confidence to confront your own actions, beliefs, and opinions.  Have the strength to look inside and admit your own faults and to commit to changing the way you think and act.
  • Become educated and engaged.  Attend training sessions, read books and articles, join a student group.  Learn the myths and realities of violence against women and understand how our society condones it.
  • Be aware of sexual stereotypes and how they influence attitudes and behaviors. Social roles and expectations may affect a man’s decisions about relationships. Men are taught that expressing feelings is not masculine. Examining your social role and learning ways to express feelings directly and non-violently can help to create deeper and more meaningful interpersonal relationships. You don’t have to prove yourself.
  • Don’t have sex with anyone against their will.  Be responsible with your penis.  “Having an erection doesn’t mean you have to put it somewhere.”  Take “no” for an answer, and heed the “no” equivalents (“stop,” “I don’t want to do that,” “I’m not ready,” etc.)  Don’t assume that when women say “no” they really mean “maybe” or “yes.”  It is never okay to use force or coercion.  Don’t assume that because a woman dresses or flirts in a manner you consider to be sexy it means she wants to have sex with you.
  • Don’t abuse girlfriends or partners.  This includes controlling, intimidating, manipulative, threatening, and harmful behavior.  Realize that abuse takes many forms, and that abuse is a choice.  A partner always has the option of leaving the room or breaking up.


       









NAKSHI YA KITENGE NDANI YA NGUO YA HARUSINI














VICTOR AND JOSEPHINE WHITE WEDDING


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FUNZO NA UPENDO WA KWELI

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Nolesy alijitosa katika ndoa licha ya hofu na ushauri mwingi aliopewa na ndugu kuwa ni vibaya kuoa ukiwa huna kazi.

Kila mwezi yule binti alimpa mmewe mshahara wake wote wa 800,000 baada ya kutoa fungu la kumi kwa ajili ya kanisani.

Nolesy yeye alitoa 200,000 na kumpa mkewe kwa ajili ya matumizi binafsi na zilizobaki kijana aliamua atumie kwa matumizi gani. Na hali hiyo ilidumu kwa miaka mitatu mfululizo.

Furaha na amani viliitawala nyumba ile na kwa wanandoa wale pia kwa miaka mitatu pamoja na kuwa marafiki wengi wa yule dada walimfuata na kumwambia huwezi ukawa unalipa bill zote za nyumba na kufanya kazi zote wewe tuu na mmeo kakaa tuu kwa nini msiachane?



Kuna mwezi mmoja kijana yule alitumia zaidi ya 500,000 akizunguka mikoa mbalimbali kwa ajili ya intavyuu za kazi.

Hatimaye kijana alifanikiwa kupata kazi Mbeya katika kampuni ya Green Entertainments na kuwa meneja mkuu huku akipokea mshahara wa milioni tatu na nusu kama kianzio.

Akanunua gari yake ya kwanza mpyaa kwa bei ya shilingi 18M na akampa funguo mkewe na kuendelea kutumia usafiri wa daladala kwa zaidi ya miaka miwili.

Baada ya hapo akanunua gari la pili jipya lenye thamani ya 30M na kumpa mkewe na kulichukua gari la zamani na kulitumia yeye na mpya kumpa mkewe.Miaka michache baadae wakahamia kwenye nyumba yao.

Siku moja mke alikuwa akitafuta dokyumenti zake katika makabrasha mbalimbali pale chumbani kwao, alishangazwa kuona kuna bahasha ndogo imefichwa na ndani kuna picha yake wakati wa harusi na akaona kuna dokyumenti nyingine za manunuzi kiwanja na magari na vyote vikiwa vimeandikwa kwa jina lake kabla ya kuona maandishi yaliyoandikwa:

Kuna mwezi mmoja kijana yule alitumia zaidi ya 500,000 akizunguka mikoa mbalimbali kwa ajili ya intavyuu za kazi.

Hatimaye kijana alifanikiwa kupata kazi Mbeya katika kampuni ya Green Entertainments na kuwa meneja mkuu huku akipokea mshahara wa milioni tatu na nusu kama kianzio.

Akanunua gari yake ya kwanza mpyaa kwa bei ya shilingi 18M na akampa funguo mkewe na kuendelea kutumia usafiri wa daladala kwa zaidi ya miaka miwili.

Baada ya hapo akanunua gari la pili jipya lenye thamani ya 30M na kumpa mkewe na kulichukua gari la zamani na kulitumia yeye na mpya kumpa mkewe.Miaka michache baadae wakahamia kwenye nyumba yao.

Siku moja mke alikuwa akitafuta dokyumenti zake katika makabrasha mbalimbali pale chumbani kwao, alishangazwa kuona kuna bahasha ndogo imefichwa na ndani kuna picha yake wakati wa harusi na akaona kuna dokyumenti nyingine za manunuzi kiwanja na magari na vyote vikiwa vimeandikwa kwa jina lake kabla ya kuona maandishi yaliyoandikwa:





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