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It is traditional for a couple to exchange wedding rings after they say their vows. Since these rings are symbols of the marriage, the words said during a ring exchange should reflect the couple's hopes for their marriage. These words may be simply incorporated into the wedding vows, or treated as a separate ritual. Here is some example wording to use during your ring exchange or ring ceremony:

Secular/Non Denominational Vows for the Ring Exchange

I give you this ring as a symbol of my love and faithfulness. As I place it on your finger, I commit my heart and soul to you. I ask you to wear this ring as a reminder of the vows we have spoken today, our wedding day.

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This ring is a token of my love. I marry you with this ring, with all that I have and all that I am

Response:
I will forever wear this ring as a sign of my commitment and the desire of my heart

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I give you this ring to wear with love and joy. As a ring has no end, neither shall my love for you. I choose you to be my (wife / husband) this day and forevermore.

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This ring I give to you as a token of my love and devotion to you. I pledge to you all that I am and all that I will ever be as your (husband/wife). With this ring, I gladly marry you and join my life to yours.

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I give this ring as my gift to you. Wear it and think of me and know that I love you.

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I give you this ring in God's name, as a symbol of all that we have promised and all that we shall share.


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I give you this ring as a visible and constant symbol of my promise to be with you as long as I live.

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I give you this ring as a symbol of my love for you. Let it be a reminder that I am always by your side and that I will always be a faithful partner to you.

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I give you this ring as a symbol of my love, my faith in our strength together, and my covenant to learn and grow with you

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Let this ring be a symbol of my promises to you and a reminder of my devotion to you. I am honored to call you my (wife/husband).

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With this ring, I thee wed, and with it, I bestow upon thee all the treasures of my mind, heart, and hands.

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(Name), I give you this ring as a symbol of my love. As it encircles your finger, may it remind you always that you are surrounded by my enduring love.

Response: I will wear it gladly. Whenever I look at it, I will remember this joyous day and the vows we've made. 

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I have for you a golden ring. The most precious metal symbolizes that your love is the most precious element in my life. The ring has no beginning and no ending, which symbolizes that the love between us will never cease. I place it on your finger as a visible sign of the vows which have made us husband and wife.

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Because this ring is perfectly symmetrical, it signifies the perfection of true love. As I place it on your finger, I give you all that I am and ever hope to be.

Response: Because this ring has no end or beginning, it signifies the continuation of true love. As I place it on your finger, I give you all that I am and ever hope to be.

 

Religious Vows for the Ring Ceremony

Protestant
I give you this ring as a symbol of my love; and with all that I am and all that I have, I honor you, in the name of the Father, and of the Son, and of the Holy Spirit.

Episcopalian
(Name), I give you this ring as a symbol of my vow, and with all that I am and all that I have, I honor you, in the name of the Father, and of the Son, and of the Holy Spirit.

Jewish
Harey at mekuddeshet li b'taba'at zo k'dat Moshe v'Israel (which means, Behold, thou art consecrated unto me with this ring according to the law of Moses and of Israel).

Presbyterian
This ring I give you, in token and pledge of our constant faith and abiding love.

Roman Catholic
In the name of the Father, the Son, and the Holy Spirit, take and wear this ring as sign of my love and faithfulness.

Unitarian
With this ring, I wed you, and pledge you my love, now and forever.

Lutheran
I give you this ring as a sign of my love and faithfulness. Receive this ring as a token of wedded love and faith.

Methodist
I give you this ring as a sign of my vow, and with all that I am, and all that I have; I honor you in the name of the Father, and of the Son, and of the Holy Spirit. Amen.

Baptist
With this ring I thee wed, and all my worldly goods I thee endow. In sickness and in health, in poverty or in wealth, till death do us part.

Quaker
No traditional exchange of rings

Muslim
Rings are traditionally exchanged during the mangni, a betrothal ceremony, but not during the wedding itself.

Hindu
Traditions vary, particularly within different regions of India. Most Hindus exchange a necklace

called a thaali or thirumangalyam in Southern India or called a mangalsutra in Northern India. You might say: "Praying the Almighty that I be blessed with a long life, I tie this knot around your neck. Oh! Sowbhagyavati, may Providence bestow on you a fulfilling life of a 'Sumangali' for a hundred years to come!"

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Lastly, if you find something particularly meaningful to say during your ring ceremony, you may wish to engrave your wedding rings with that phrase.

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Wiki hii nimeona ni vyema tukabadilishana uzoefu juu ya suala zima la wivu katika mapenzi. Mtakubaliana nami kuwa suala la kuwa na wivu kwa mpenzi wako ni jambo lisilokwepeka hasa kwa sababu kubwa ya kuaminika kwake kwamba kuwa na wivu ni moja ya kigezo cha kuonesha ni jinsi gani unampenda mpenzio na kwamba hauko tayari kwa namna yoyote ile kushea na mwingine ndio maana wanawake wengi hawataki kusikia suala la ukewenza kabisaa! Hata kama jambo hilo limepewa baraka zote na dini au tamaduni zao.
Lakini kubwa katika wivu ni ile kutokuwa tayari kuona tunasalitiwa na wapenzi/wanandoa na hasa kwa wale tunaowapenda ukweli toka moyoni mwetu na zaidi ukute ndo tumeshawagharamikia kiasi cha kutosha na kujitoa kwao kwa kila kitu!
Umeshawahi kusikia kauli kama “Jamani mke (au mume) anauma! Au kauli kama mke wa mtu sumu” na hugeuka sumu kweli hasa pale “unapobambwa” na mali za wenyewe, kufanyiwa “kitu mbaya” inakuwa sio jambo la ajabu sana.
Niwaambie kitu wapenzi wasomaji! Mapenzi bwana ni “full uchoyo, ni full kujipendelea! Mpenzi wanaume kwa mfano, anaweza kufikiria kwamba ni yeye tu ndiye anayestahili na anayeweza kumfanya mpenzi wake acheke na kufurahi.
Na kwamba akitokea mwanaume mwingine akapata nafasi ya kumfurahisha mpenzi huyo hata katika stori za kawaida tu, unaweza ukasikia akisema, “Hivi wewe mna nini na huyo jamaa, mbona unamchekea chekea hivyo, au…!” Hiyo ndiyo choyo ya penzi, na kikubwa kinachofanyika hapo ni ile tu kujaribu kulinda maslahi binafsi.

Pamoja na ukweli kwamba tabia ya wivu inapozidi hugeuka kuwa kero, lakini kabla hatujafika huko hebu tuangalie nafasi ya wivu katika mapenzi yetu. Yaani swali ni kwamba, je! Wivu katika mapenzi unaleta maana?
Nionavyo mimi wivu ukitumika vizuri unaleta maana na una nafasi muhimu sana katika mapenzi kwa sababu zifuatazo:

Huonesha kujali
Sote tunaamini pasipo na wivu hata chembe, hapana mapenzi ya kweli. Kumuonesha wivu mpenzi wako ni kumjulisha ni kiasi gani unamjali na kumpenda na kwamba yeye ni mtu maalum sana kwako.
Jamani, mahali penye mapenzi yasiyo na wivu hata kidogo, panatia shaka! Na mara nyingi majibu yake ni kutokuwa “serious” katika uhusiano huo au huenda kuna kupitisha muda tu na kwamba labda hakuna “future” na mpenzi huyo au ni dalili ya kuchuja kwa penzi.

Kuthamini uhusiano
“Sio kama sikuamini dear, bali wivu wangu kwako ni katika kuuthamini uhusiano wetu, mimi na wewe ni umoja wenye thamani kubwa, tusiruhusu kuuchezea nje yetu! Huu ni mfano wa ujumbe unaoonesha maana na nafasi ya wivu katika mahusiano ya kimapenzi.
Kukumbushana
Kauli au matendo yanayoashiria kumuonesha wivu mpenzio yanasaidia kwa kiasi kikubwa kumfanya mwenzi wako “asijisahau” katika jukumu la kulienzi penzi lenu hata akiwa mbali ya upeo wa macho yako.

Kujijengea heshima
Kwa namna moja au nyingine, wivu pia huweza kukujengea heshima. Kwa mfano mume mwenye wivu na mkewe hujijengea heshima ya kwamba kweli anamjali na kumpenda mkewe lakini pia anaweka mazingira ya kutosumbuliwa kwa mke wake huyo kumjengea heshima yake kama mke wa mtu.

Husaidia kubadilisha tabia
Ukiwa na wivu, unaotokana na mavazi “tatanishi” anayopendelea kuvaa mpenzi wako kwa mfano, huenda ikasaidia kubadili tabia yake.
“Ni kweli umependeza na umetoka “chicha” ile mbaya mpenzi, lakini mh! Naogopa wanaume wakware watakusumbua honey, unaonaje ukavaa simpo tu?” Kama anakupenda huenda akabadilika kidogo na hivyo “vivazi vyake

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History Of Marriage Customs In Africa

In the history of marriage customs in Africa, the institution has taken on at least three (3) principal forms:

• Marriage by capture
• Marriage by purchase
• Marriage by choice

Interestingly, research shows that marriage customs in other parts of world have patterns that are (or were) very similar to the history of marriage customs in Africa. Perhaps this is even more proof that we probably all do share the same roots... but I digress...

Marriage By Capture

The bride-to-be may be either kidnapped or captured prior to the official wedding ceremony or at some point during. During the wedding festivities, friends of the couple may kidnap the bride and will release her only after the groom negotiates for, and pays, her ransom. The kidnapping can be done multiple times throughout the wedding ceremony and it is up to the groom to notice when his bride goes missing.
In the other type of marriage by capture, the groom's family and friends abduct the bride. When the abduction comes to light, the groom's "posse" and the bride's "posse" meet halfway between their villages (or halfway between their family compounds if they are from the same village), where they will either engage in a mock battle OR exchange gifts and/or payment for the bride.
Such practices are seen among the Ganda/Bantu tribes of Uganda and the people of Nyanza in Kenya.

Marriage By Purchase

The theory behind this is basically self-explanatory, however there are subtle differences form tribe to tribe in Africa when it comes to the actual execution.
In Zaire, the groom brings two copper rings or an arrow to the bride and her family. Upon acceptance of the gifts the couple becomes officially betrothed. More gifts are exchanged during the actual wedding ceremony, one of which is a knife given by the groom to the bride's father. The knife signifies that the new husband is now responsible for the wife's safety and well-being.
Among the Zulu, the groom gives cattle to the bride's family and father. The theory behind the cattle is that if for any reason the marriage doesn't work out and the bride has to return to her family, the cattle serve as insurance for her so that she will be able to support herself.
The Nyakysus people of Malawi consider a marriage legitimate only after the bride's representative has received cattle from the groom. The groom still has to work on his bride's father's land for some time. If the marriage doesn't work out then the cattle can be returned and the marriage will be dissolved.

Marriage By Choice

Also known as a "love match", this one of course requires very little to no explanation.
Okay, that's just the tip of the iceberg. Get more African marriage trivia and learn about african wedding rituals too!
Now that you've learned about the history of marriage in Africa, learn how you can incorporate many of these wonderful, colorful, and very festive African wedding traditions and customs into your wedding as well. You don't have to limit the African American traditions you use in your wedding to just jumping the broom.

Love is a fever which marriage puts to bed and cures.
- Richard J. Needham

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KWA MAHITAJI YAKO YA SWEET TREATS KWENYE BIRTHDAY,KITCHEN PARTY,SENDOFF NA HARUSI..AGGREY'A CANDIES TREATS WANAKULETEA MEZA MAALUM YA UTAMU WA PIPI ITAKAYOKUWA NA AINA MBALIMBALI ZA PIPI & CHOCOLATES KUKUCHANGAMSHA WEWE NA WAGENI WAKO SIKU IYO.BEI ZAO NI POA KABISAA.......KUWA MDADISI KWA KUJARIBU HII MEZA UONJE UTAMU WA PIPI IZI.TOA ORDER MAPEMA KUPATA MACHAGUO MAZURI YA RANGI....KARIBUNI

   

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Get the best wedding reception food ideas. A variety of wedding foods, including finger foods for wedding reception can help to make sure your guests have a satisfying culinary experience on your wedding day. The food you serve will reflect to your guests just how much thought you put into ensuring that they have just as good an experience on your wedding day as you do.
An easy way to incorporate something African into your wedding will be to use African food recipes to make some of the dishes that will be served. Listed below you are some wedding reception food ideas for appetizers, the main course, and dessert.
A good way to save some money is to have an all-out African-style cooking… Everything is made in bulk such that you can have a virtual all-you-can-eat buffet wedding reception. If budget constraints aren't a big issue for you, you can still do this and add even more items to your menu.

Wedding Reception Food Ideas

Looking for African food recipes for your wedding reception? Check out some of the following.

Jollof Rice - a staple at social functions

Jollof rice
Rice is a definite staple in the African diet and can be very easily adapted to be integrated into your wedding menu. Jollof rice is a very popular dish, particularly in West Africa. All the ingredients can be very easily procured in the U.S. and other non-African countries. Jollof rice lends itself well to being made in large portions and is known very well as a "party food". Now depending on who makes it, there are slight variations in the recipe and the steps to get from raw ingredients to finished product but in the end, the result is pretty much the same.

A pan of plantain being fried... delicious...

Plantain recipes
Another staple across the continent are plantains… Plantains make great wedding foods and they are so versatile. There is the simple and nutritious baked plantain which can be a good stand-alone dish. A fried plantain recipe is pretty simple to follow, this is good because almost any type of rice, but most especially jollof rice, is considered naked without fried plantain. Check out even more ideas for plantain recipes.

A bowl of Moroccan lamb

Meat Dishes
Then there's the meat… We do love our meat don't we? From the signature African bush meat, to a variety of the more recognizable Moroccan lamb recipe, every main dish needs some type of meat or animal flesh to compliment it, …sorry vegetarians… With a good biltong recipe, you can have and additional item for the finger foods for wedding reception.

A bowl of Mandazi... yum!

African Desserts
Last but certainly not the least, let's not forget the desserts. After a satisfying dinner you can serve some signature African desserts to your guests. From sweet to savory, your choices are vast. From sweet East African Mandazi, to Koeksisters to chin chin which makes a great finger food.
Not to mention the wedding cake! The pièce de résistance of the entire wedding reception event.

Other African Wedding Foods & Drinks

Other than the main course and desserts, there are some other traditional African wedding reception food that no wedding should be without.
Kola nuts
These are primarily used for libations. Offering kola nut to your guests is also a way of letting them know that they are welcome at your event.

Kola nuts - A staple in many African weddings

And let's not forget about the drinks and beverages...

African Rooibos Tea
Once you take a sip of this tea you'll be hooked. Serve it after the main to help keep your guest's stomachs settled and peaceful.

Moroccan Mint Tea
Sure it's all the rage these days especially at places like Starbucks and Peet's Coffee, but you can also serve this drink after dinner... in tandem with your regular coffee and tea service.

Palm Wine
An alcoholic beverage that is derived from the fruit of the palm tree, this juice-like drink is sweet and refreshing and a must-have at all African weddings. Serve it with dinner alongside you red and white wines.

A cup of cool, refreshing palm wine

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