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AFRO HAIRSTYLES IX COMPETITION IN CALI - COLOMBIA

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WHAT MAN SHOULD DO DURING WEDDING NIGHT?

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after the long wedding day, the man is very tired,
what should he do to prevent fallin asleep ?
is it very practical to make sex with the wife on the first wedding night?

HERE ARE FEW ANSWERS .....

(1) You can do what you need to do....

I think that is up to the couple. When we got married, I was suprised that were finding that a lot of books on getting married said that many couples don't do that on their wedding night for the very reasons you have stated. I know that friends of ours shared that they simply fell asleep as soon as they got to the hotel and then dealt with things the next morning. It's not un-manly if you have worked for weeks to get this wedding to happen, been up for days with friends, probably got up at 5am the day of the service, got married, had the reception - get to the room at 1am and pass out. It happens to more people than will admit it.

If you want to make sure that happens, then drink a lot of coffee, stay away from (or drink less of) the alcohol, and there you go...

Another thing, it might be important for the groom to discuss this with the bride to be. She probably has some thoughts on the matter.

(2) Love your new wife.......

I've been married twice and so had two wedding nights, I think I can offer some advice.

First, you're young and there is no reason for you to be that tired that you can't make love to your wife. The only reason you couldn't would be if you drank too much at the wedding. There is no reason to drink that much! Pace yourself throughout the evening and if you turn down a drink or two toward the end of the affair everyone will understand. It will be a very busy day for you so you don't need to drink all that much. Even if you're not young there is no need to drink so much that it ruins the wedding night.

If she is anything like every bride I've ever known she is looking forward to the wedding night. She has purchased or been given special lingerie and she deserves to wear it and have a memorable night.

A wedding isn't just another party and the wedding night isn't just another sexual encounter. (I'm assuming that you have had sex before the wedding as I answer this question.) This is the first time you will be together when you truly belong to each other. This is special. This is the time to make her feel like a cherished gift from god. She is your treasure and she has made you the greatest gift of her life and her love. This night is your first, and most memorable, time to impress upon her that you do love her and are grateful for who she is. You'll have sex many times in your life together but this is one time that you'll both always remember.

I have just one bit of advice on the sex. Make the encounter about her pleasure not yours. Get control of yourself and make sure she has her pleasure several times before you worry about yours. Going the extra mile and being unselfish on this night will pay off with huge dividends throughout your marriage.

And...if you fall asleep you're just being self. If you're being selfish on your wedding night what kind of a husband will you be to her throught your years together?

TEN THINGS TO CONSIDER BEFORE GETTING MARRIED.

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Part 1:

Before you think about getting married, it’s important to know what makes YOU happy and fulfilled. If you establish this first, it is easier to carry those thoughts and behaviors into future relationships…..
eventually making you a better wife, and mother, should you choose to walk down that path.

1. Get Financially Stable

Get an education or trade and pursue a career that interests and challenges you. Know how to handle your finances, earn money on your own terms and only accumulate as much debt as you can realistically handle. Don’t expect parents or partners to bail you out of financial trouble. Learn to be your own financial hero.
Taking care of yourself financially mean you’ll be in a better position to handle life’s monetary curve balls. If your partner falls ill, your husband loses his job or the marriage ends in a divorce, you need to be able to financially stand on your own two feet.
Far too many of us know women stuck in bad marriages simply because they don’t have a valid way to support themselves or their children should they leave.

2. Figure Out Who You Are

It’s important to have your own identity before getting married. All too often we neglect our own personal development and growth, only to merge with a partner and take on their values and interests without being clear on what makes us happy.
Spend some quality time alone and learn how to enjoy your own company. Take solo trips away and live alone for a few years. Keep a journal and document what brings you joy and strength.
While waiting for someone to complete you might sound romantic in the movies; in reality it means you consider part of yourself missing (where’s the romance in that)? You are complete. You were complete the minute you were born. Give yourself the love you need first, then if you find a person who enhances your life and loves the real you – all the better.

3. Live Outside of Your Comfort Zone

I’m sure you have heard it said before, most of the best moments in life happen outside of your comfort zone. Be brave. Be adventurous. Move to that amazing city or country you have been dreaming about.
If you are not interested in moving, try new bars, restaurants and cultural events. Get out of your bubble of constantly spending time with the same people, doing the same old things. Seek out activities that expand and challenge you. Visit museums and art galleries either in your local area or on the far side of the globe.
See yourself and the world through fresh eyes and interests. Free yourself from the burden of other people’s stereotypes and assumptions.
Do as much as possible before you have children; once children come along it all changes.

4. Travel And Be Adventurous

Get out and see the country with your friends. Plan overseas holidays and weekends away with girlfriends. If friends aren’t available, take a trip on your own and see how many wonderful new people you can meet. Try new things; scuba diving, skydiving, eating exotic foods or making out with a local.
You can travel once you’re married but…I promise… it’s not the same.

5. Make a Pre-Wedding Bucket List.

Write down the things you want to accomplish and make a promise to yourself (and to the future you) not to walk down the aisle until you do them. This doesn’t mean you can’t date or be in a committed, loving relationship. Just don’t be in a rush to tie the knot.

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Part 2:

After you’ve complete the first five of the ten steps, it’ll be time to turn your attention to towards you AND your partner.
So, before you start planning your honeymoon, it’s time to get serious. Here are five important factors you need to consider before you take that bridal march down the aisle.

6. Make Sure You And Your Partner Are Compatible.

It helps to share similar values, beliefs and interests. Understand your partner’s dreams, needs and desires. Ensure you can communicate in an open, honest and respectful manner. Marrying someone you aren’t compatible with both emotionally and physically could result in heartache down the road. The euphoria of your wedding day will be long forgotten during divorce proceedings and custody settlements.

7. Establish Whether You And Your Partner Share Similar Goals For The Future.

Before getting married, you should have an in depth discussion about having children. You need to be on the same page as to whether you both want children (don’t assume someone wants to be a parent), when you plan to have children and what would happen if you were unable to have a child together.
Also, develop an understanding of where each of you want to live, what you plan to do and how you see your life together down the road. Painting a clear picture now will help to avoid any surprises later.

8. Make Sure You Have Similar Values When It Comes To Money.

You need to understand and accept your partner’s spending, saving and debt habits. Considering money problems are a key reason for the breakdown of marriages, make sure you are in agreement when it comes to how you will both handle your hard earned cash.

9. Be Sure You Are Considering Marriage For The Right Reasons.

Are you getting married because all of your friends are walking down the aisle and you are afraid of being left out? Panicking because of your age? Worried that you are running out of time to have kids? Are you feeling pressured by family, friends or even your partner? Are you scared of being alone? Be careful, getting married for all of the WRONG reasons, could mean marrying the WRONG person.

10. Focus on staying true to yourself after you are married.

It’s important to maintain your individuality. Too many women (and some men) lose their identity when they tie the knot. People give up their friends, family and interests so they can adopt a lifestyle more aligned with their partner. Whilst marriage involves compromise by both parties, don’t hand your life over on a silver platter.

BY Thea Easterby.

EMELDA MWAMANGA AWAHAMASISHA WANAWAKE WAJASIRIAMALI KUJIAMINI.

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Akizungumza wakati wa semina ya wanawake wajasiriamali iliyoambatana na maonyesho ya bidhaa mbalimbali jijini Dar es Salaam mwishoni mwa wiki, Afisa mtendaji mkuu wa taasisi isiyokuwa ya kiserikali ya Dare to Dream foundation iliyoandaa semina hiyo Emelda Mwamanga alisema kutojiamini ni moja kati ya sababu zinazowafanya wanawake wajasiriamali kushindwa kusonga mbele

Emelda alisema kuwa, duniani ya sasa ya kibiashara imejaa ushindani mkubwa na bila kujiamini itakuwa ni vigumu kwa wanawake wajasiriamali kuweza kufanikiwa.

"Semina hii imewaleta pamoja wanawake wa kada mbalimbali ili kuweza kubadilishana uzoefu pamoja na kutiana moyo. Wapo waliofanikiwa kibiashara ambao watawaeleza wale ambao bado hawajafanikia njia walizopitia mpaka kufika hapo walipo. Kupitia semina hii watajifunza na namna ya kutengeneza bidhaa zenye viwango pamoja na namna ya kujitanga," alisema

Kwa upande wake Afisa masoko wa benki ya CRDB Emmanuel Kiondo alisema kuwa benki yake inatambua umuhimu wa kumwezesha mwanamke na ndiyo maana ikaamua kujitokeza kudhamini shughuli hiyo iliyolenga kuwajengea uwezo wanawake

Tunaamini kuwa mwanamke akiwezeshwa familia nzima inakuwa imewezeshwa. Benki ya CRDB imekuwa ikimjali sana mwanamke na tumeweza kuanzisha akaunti ya Malkia maalumu kwa ajili ya wanawake wenye malengo mbalimbali ikiwemo ya kiujasiriamali," alieleza

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THE HISTORY OF WEDDING RINGS & WHY THEY'RE WORN ON THE 4TH FINGER ON THE LEFT HAND.

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The history and symbolism behind the tradition of wearing a wedding ring and why, in most western cultures, it’s worn on the fourth finger of the left hand, otherwise known as the ring finger.

Wedding rings today are a billion dollar sentiment of love, but no one can really say for sure when this age old tradition actually started. Some believe that the oldest recorded exchange of wedding rings comes from ancient Egypt, about 4800 years ago. Sedges, rushes and reeds, growing alongside the well-known papyrus were twisted and braided into rings for fingers an other decorative ornaments worn by the women in those days.

The circle was the symbol of eternity, with no beginning or end, not only to the Egyptians, but many other ancient cultures. The hole in the center of the ring also had significance. It wasn’t just considered a space, but rather a gateway, or door; leading to things and events both known and unknown. To give a woman a ring signifies never-ending and immortal love.

The materials these rings were made of didn’t last very long and soon were substituted with rings made of leather, bone or ivory. The more expensive the material, the more love shown to the receiver; the value of the ring also demonstrated the wealth of the giver.

The Roman’s also eventually adopted this tradition but with their own twist. Rather than offering a ring to a woman as a symbol of love, they awarded them as a symbol of ownership. Roman men would “claim” their woman with the giving of a ring. Roman betrothal rings were later made of iron and called “Anulus Pronubus.” They symbolized strength and permanence. It is also said that the Romans were the first to engrave their rings.

It was not until about 860 that the Christians used the ring in marriage ceremonies; even then, it was not the simple plain band as we know it. It usually was highly decorated with engraved doves, lyres, or two linked hands. The Church discouraged such rings as ‘heathenish’ and, around the 13th century, wedding and betrothal rings were considerably simplified, and given a more spiritual look which was very aptly expressed by a Bishop when he dubbed it a “symbol of the union of hearts.”

Wedding rings through different stages in history have been worn on different fingers, including the thumb, and on both the left and right hands. According to a tradition believed to have been derived from the Romans, the wedding ring is worn on the left hand ring finger because there was thought to be a vein in the finger, referred to as the ‘Vena Amoris’ or the ‘Vein of Love’ said to be directly connected to the heart. However, scientists have shown this is actually false. Despite this, this myth still remains regarded by many (hopeless romantics) as the number one reason rings are worn on the fourth finger.

Another theory thought to be behind the ring being placed on the left hand by Christians seems a little more plausible. Early Christian marriages had a ritual to wear the wedding ring in the third finger. As the priest recited during the binding ,”In the name of the Father, the Son and the Holy Spirit”, he would take the ring and touch the thumb, the index finger, and the middle finger; then, while uttering “Amen”, he would place the ring on the ring finger, which sealed the marriage.

A more practically based theory is that the soft metal (traditionally gold for wedding rings) is less worn or injured on the finger of the left hand, due to most of the world being right handed. Further, the fourth finger on the left hand is probably the second to the least used finger on a person’s hands outside of pinkies. Pinkies being small, making a small ring with little surface area to decorate, perhaps motivated people to then place it on the next least used finger, namely the fourth finger on the left hand, which is roughly the size of the other fingers.